You hear a song on the radio and think “Er me gawd this is amazing!” You look up the artist and you fall in love. And before you fully realise it, you are involved in a fandom. It can happen so quickly that you won’t even notice. You’ve told yourself not to get into a new artist anymore, but things happen and now you can’t go back.
And in the beginning it is all fun and games. People welcome you. You feel like you belong in this new world and you quickly make new friends. You admire those who have seen your new favourite artist many times and even met him/her/them! And you aspire to achieve the same and buy tickets to see a show. You go to the show, meet all these people you know from the online world and have a blast. You get addicted and go to more and more shows and lo and behold, you meet your favourite artist! And again, and again. And then the artist invites you backstage and you cannot believe it! You share your joy with your online friends and whereas at first they were overjoyed when you got to say hi, the response is a little less enthusiastic now.
And you don’t understand. You thought they were your friends? You thought they would be happy for you but why aren’t they? There are only one or two people left who are cool to you but the rest of them look at you with a side eye. You hear that they are gossiping about you. They call you a bitch and say that you do not deserve the attention. And who are you to come into their fandom and act like a fucking princess? In one single second, you went from being liked to being prosecuted merely because you had gotten something they wanted.
The thing with most fandoms is, everybody is one big family until there is one person who gets a bigger slice of the pie than others. And while initially you wanted to share the slice, people spat on it, trying to tarnish its taste and making you feel bad about the fact that you took in more calories than you were supposed to.
If you think only teenage girls can turn nasty, you are wrong. Jealousy is a thing of all ages. And while teenage girls are more obvious in their dislike and will mostly attack you by passive aggressive tweets, older fans are worse. They stab you in the back when you are not looking, but when they meet you face to face, they are the kindest people you will ever meet. I have never met as many two-faced people as I’ve met in fandoms. They crucify you yet they still want a taste of your piece of the pie.
How do you deal with the darker side of these fangirls? Mostly just let them hate. The thing about hate is that at some point it will consume you. So while they make their own lives miserable, you just enjoy yourself and only let the positive people in your life. You don’t need their negativity so ignore them.
Have you ever had to deal with the dark side of fangirls/boys? Let me know in the comments!