I often get asked the question why I go to so many gigs. I answered that question over here. But there is another very important reason why I keep going back to concerts of the same artists. And that has nothing to do with connecting with an artist or escaping reality for two hours. It has everything to do with friends.
You see, at concerts, people are not their usual shy selves. When you are waiting in line, you chat with whoever is closest to you or when you have finally conquered your perfect spot, you talk with the people who are standing around you. You already have one thing in common, which is the artist you are there for. So you start off chatting about the music, how many times you’ve seen the artist and maybe even talk about their pets or whatever. And when you feel that connection, you talk about different things and before you know it you will exchange numbers and follow each other on Twitter and Facebook and a new friendship is born. It is that simple and simplicity is key.
And what do you think of friends you’ve met online and will finally meet in real life at the concert? You’ve been talking for ages already and finally you will be able to carry on in the flesh. You can joke in real life, actually hug in real life and make that friendship a real life thing. You sit together and spend time together as though you haven’t done anything else in your whole life. You already know every little bit of each other’s life and there is no need to go through that initial meeting ritual phase. Sometimes, this is the way you meet your soulmate. Simply through Twitter or a forum. Simply because you both liked the same artist and got involved in the fandom. And that is a beautiful thing.
I have met some of my best friends through concerts. And they are situated all over the world, which at times is difficult because you want to come over and chill every single week but that is not possible. The good thing is that there is a lot of happiness when you finally see each other again because you have so much to tell each other and the real life hugging can be picked up from there right away as well. And the memories I’ve made with these friends are especially priceless. Sleeping in dodgy hotel rooms, long roadtrips to far-away destinations. Disappointment when you don’t get the spot you wanted or when you get separated. When people around you are horrible to you and your friend defends you from their bullshit. Or the times your favourite artist did something special for you and you fangirl about it and watch the youtube videos (if there are any) on repeat. But probably the best thing is remembering all these crazy moments when you meet up again without a gig or when you are in the car driving to your next destination for a gig. And even though you’ve heard a story a hundred times already, it will always be funny because the memories we cherish are priceless.
And sometimes you meet someone and during the day and gig you are best friends and when you leave, you will never see them again. Not all concert friendships last, but that doesn’t matter. Go out there. Make friends and dance the night away together. And maybe, just maybe, you will find friends that will last a lifetime.