Dear future Daughter,
I don’t know if you will ever be born. I don’t know what your name will be. The only thing I know is that you will be born a girl and that is both a blessing and a curse.
Don’t worry, if you ever do come into this world, you will be welcome and you will be loved more than you can imagine. But I guess the love parents can give you is not enough to protect you from the world outside. And you will wonder why you need protecting. You will enter this world with a curious mind, wondering why things are the way they are. You will trust people, because you do not yet have the concept of good and evil. That is a beautiful thing. That is something you should cherish for as long as you can.
But life as a girl is not easy. I am not saying life as a boy is easy, but it’s different. When you are older, you will know. They will talk to you about equality but what is equality really? You will not get paid as much as boys will be paid when they are older. At times you might struggle to be taken as seriously as boys. Some people will demand you to act ladylike, act like a girl or just sit pretty and listen to what the men tell you to do. I hope you will be born with an independent mind and I hope that you will fight against this. You deserve the same pay for the same work that you do just as well as men. You deserve to let your voice be heard. You deserve to show them that you are more than a pretty face. You matter.
And there will come times when you will meet people who think that you do not own your own body. That your body is just for their amusement, so that they can have their way with you. It won’t always be people who will touch you inappropriately when you don’t want it. Sometimes it are just looks. Sometimes it are words. Sometimes they will insult you and call you a slut or a whore when you say you are not interested. This can be confusing. But don’t let it get you down. Your no is a no. Your voice deserves to be heard. You matter. So do not ever let anyone use you.
And there might come a time when you meet a man who will abuse you or rape you. I hope it doesn’t happen, but it could. And you may feel broken and weak. And you may find the strength to stand up at last and tell the world what has happened to you. And there is a chance that you will not be taken seriously. There is a chance that it is your word against his and he is innocent until proven guilty. There is a chance that whoever decides about his fate has sympathy with him because of who he is or because of his accomplishments and they do not want to ruin his life. Do not let this ruin you. Stand up. Scream or shout. No matter how hard it will be, let your voice be heard. You matter. You are a woman and you are a human. Your body is your body. You decide what happens to it and you alone.
This might sound like the world is a bad place, but it isn’t entirely. There are great things about the world. There are kind an compassionate people. There are people who love you more than you will ever know. So enter this world with that curious mind and get involved in adventures that go beyond your imagination. I hope that by the time you will be born, things will be different. I hope that by then our voices will be heard. I hope that we matter just as much as men do. I will keep fighting for you until that happens.
With all my love